HOSPITALITY         

Our churches should be places where everyone feels at home. Guests should never feel that they are causing undue extra labor. In short, all that is really needed to be an excellent host is a loving heart, an open ear, and eyes that see Christ in each person who crosses the threshold.

Emily J. Cook, “Hospitality Is Biblical – And It’s Not Optional”

Hospitality Ministry General

Hospitality is one of several parish ministries whose mission is to ‘welcome’ both new and established members of the community. Joined by Parish Greeters and Ushers, the members of the Hospitality Ministry serve in the “front lines” in the creation of a welcoming environment at St. Marcelline.  Making our first time guests and our regulars feel comfortable and at home is our goal. Anyone who has entertained understands the importance of first impressions and of long term sincerity in the work of hospitality.  We are Martha’s working hard to serve those who are family, friends, acquaintances and strangers; and we are Mary’s taking time to sit at the feet of our guests listening to their stories, concerns and joys.   These efforts make us evangelizers, one of those followers of Christ that touch the spirit of another person.

The ministry is coordinated by Chris Blecha and Tammy Kline.  If you are interested in offering your time and talent to this ministry please contact one of them by calling the Administration Center (847.524.4429) and leaving a message.

The ministry membership is subdivided into two groups. One group uses their talents at baking and cooking as a welcoming tool on an as needed basis for parish gatherings. Examples include: Deanery, Vicariate and Diocesan meetings held in our facility; Parish missions; Coffee and…; and The Story of Christmas for children.   The second group also cooks and bakes; in addition they share their talents at organization and leadership by joining a team that periodically coordinates monthly Hospitality Gatherings and weekend “Coffee and…” fellowship. 

The Hospitality Gatherings and Coffee and… are sponsored by one or more of the parish ministries and co-hosted by a Hospitality Ministry Team.  For example: The recent “Come to the Pumpkin Patch” Hospitality Gathering was Sponsored by the Christ Renews His Parish ministry and co-hosted by C.R.H.P. and Hospitality. C.R.H.P. did the set-up and tear-down and provided the workers and the treats. The Hospitality Team helped organize, host and provided leadership.

Coffee and…  & Hospitality Gatherings

The primary undertaking of the Hospitality Ministry is a gathering that we have come to call “Coffee and…”  As one might expect it is a social gathering of the community where coffee and a treat are served as an encouragement for parish fellowship.  It is an ever evolving gathering that perhaps found its roots in the ‘Donut Sundays’ held by our Holy Name Society for fundraising and fun.  On Donut Sundays the fragrance of frying donuts would permeate the church enticing the worshippers to wander down to Diemer Hall for a fresh bag of warm donuts and hot steaming coffee.

Later on homemade baked goods supplanted Holy Name’s donuts (although donuts have continued to hold their own on the table) and other ministries shared in labor to provide us with tasty treats.  This tradition remains intact following our 9:00am Family Mass.

The evolution of Coffee and… continues. In the words of Food Network Chef Emeril Lagasse the Hospitality Ministry has, “Kicked it up a notch!” Offering themed Hospitality Gatherings such as Mrs. Claus’ Kitchen (featuring Christmas treats) and Cookin’ with Marcelline (providing delicacies from the parish cookbook) the donuts have turned into hors d’oeuvres following the 5:00 Saturday Evening Mass.  Donuts continue to find there way to the treat tables following the 7:30, 9:00 and 11:00 Sunday Morning Masses but they are always in the company of other palate pleasing treats adhering to the theme.  Of course there is always hot coffee, juice and new friends available.

In addition to the treats, children will find a “Kids Table” filled with activities for little hands and curious minds. And who knows who might come to visit? At the “Come to the Pumpkin Patch” event there was a talking jack-o-lantern! Santa is certain to visit Mrs. Claus’ kitchen and who knows just what might join in the fun at the “Let Me Call You Sweetheart” gathering?

All Parish Ministries are invited to take the opportunity of the gatherings to network with parishioners.  St. Marcelline has over 50 different ministries that serve all of God’s People. Getting word out can be difficult. Whether it is a need to be ministered to or a desire for an opportunity to minister a brief conversation at an information table will satisfy.

Hospitality Ministry History

The Hospitality Ministry at St Marcelline Catholic Church has served the people of this community in many and varied ways.  Originally composed of women and men of the parish with a joy for baking and a desire to help connect our people through that age old unifier “a good meal” these folks organized to provide culinary treats when needed at a parish gathering.  For many years these dedicated artists of the kitchen prepared delightful tidbits that were a feast for the eyes and for the stomach.

Emily J. Cook, author of “Hospitality Is Biblical – And It’s Not Optional” (the complete text follows) points out that hospitality is far more than a satisfied tummy. The person we touch in our sincere effort to be hospitable may undergo a transformation of character that results in a renewal of their relationship with church, faith and God.  On the day of our baptism God called each of us to service of God’s people.  That service may be as simple as an act of hospitality through a warm greeting, a random act of kindness or a compassionate moment of listening.

Hospitality should never be limited; rather, it ought to be part of every human’s central being. Sadly, our world is becoming a less hospitable place.  Schaumburg, a village made up of many people in transition, often has neighborhoods where lot lines might as well be prison walls, keeping neighbors out and families in.

Hospitality at St. Marcelline underpins our hope and desire to be an evangelizing community, a place where all feel comfortable, welcome, and included.  Not an easy task but one that is being accomplished through the Spirit.  We greet our guests and our own at the door. We invite all to join around the table to worship as one community. We share of our time, our talents and our treasure for the good of this community and the community at large. We reach out to those in our midst and those we do not see to satisfy basic needs.  We are united with our fellow faith communities in Schaumburg to bring peace to our neighborhoods and world.  We serve donuts, bake cookies & cakes and pour coffee and juice so that we who gather each weekend to pray, share in a spiritual fellowship of sojourners in faith.

SAINT MEINRAD

Patron of Hospitality, January 21

May have been a member of the noble Hohenzollern family. Educated, professed as a Benedictine monk, and ordained at the abbey on the island of Reichenau, in Lake Constance in Switzerland. Teacher in Zurich. Around 829 he withdrew to live in prayer as a hermit in the Black Forest. As word of his holiness and wisdom spread, he attracted many visitors and would-be students. In 836 he retreated to a more remote location near Einsiedeln (which means hermitage).

On 21 January 861 he received, fed, sheltered and entertained two rough-looking travelers. They were thieves, and when they found that Meinrad was a holy hermit who owned nothing worth stealing, they were so angry that they beat him to death. Legend says that his body was protected by ravens who attacked and chased away the murderers. Because he was such a holy man, he was considered a martyr, but there is no evidence that he died defending the faith.

In the years following his death, a series of hermits, including Blessed Benno, used his hermitage. In 934 a Benedictine monastery was built there. It survives today, still serving as monastery, retreat center, and pilgrimage site. The statue of the Blessed Virgin in its huge church is thought to have belonged to Meinrad himself.

Pineapple as Hospitality Symbol

In larger, well-to-do homes, the dining room doors were kept closed to heighten visitors' suspense about the table being readied on the other side. At the appointed moment, and with the maximum amount of pomp and drama, the doors were flung open to reveal the evening's main event. Visitors confronted with pineapple-topped food displays felt particularly honored by a hostess who obviously spared no expense to ensure her guests' dining pleasure.

In this manner, the fruit which was the visual keystone of the feast naturally came to symbolize the high spirits of the social events themselves; the image of the pineapple coming to express the sense of welcome, good cheer, human warmth and family affection inherent to such gracious home gatherings.

Hospitality Is Biblical — and It's Not Optional

by Emily J. Cook

It's not a coincidence that Jesus did most of his teaching while at table over a meal. Learning at the table would have been natural to him. As a boy, he probably first learned many of the traditions and history of the Jewish people through mealtime prayers and from the celebratory rituals that preceded feasts. Jewish prayers are filled with history and are often mini-catechisms.

Once Jesus began his public ministry, he was often on the road and had to depend on the hospitality of strangers for meals and a place to rest. Not only did he use those meals as an opportunity to teach, but he also used the language of hospitality to describe God and his kingdom.

That hospitality was an important virtue would have been an old idea even in Jesus' time. The theme of the necessary, yet precarious, relationship between guest and host was a familiar one to the ancient Hebrews as well as to other ancient cultures (see "My Big Fat Greek Welcome," below). Hospitality in the ancient world was much more than politeness or friendliness. In an age when inns were few and far between, travelers had to rely upon the hospitality of strangers to aid them in their journeys. Hospitality was also a way to survive in a culture where political boundaries were in constant flux. A traveler might find himself in unfriendly territory all too quickly.

The Israelites were hospitable out of a sense of communal responsibility, out of obedience to the Mosaic law, and because of their desire to please God. Proverbs says even enemies must be given the necessities of survival, because generosity is a reproof to those who lack that virtue: "If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; for you will heap coals of fire on his head, and the Lord will reward you" (Prov. 25:21-22).

In the Beginning

The biblical lessons of hospitality begin in Genesis, at the beginning of salvation history. The stories of Abraham and others illustrate the way a guest should be treated. When three strangers approached his tent, he ran out to greet them and prepared a lavish meal for them. He later learned that they were God's messengers sent to reveal that his formerly barren wife would bear a son.

Hosts had a sacred obligation to provide food and drink, water to wash their feet, and a place to rest. The guest had an obligation to accept what was offered. The refusal on either part was a serious breach of honor.

The obligations of hospitality also included protecting the guest from harm. The seriousness of this obligation is shown in the story of Lot, who offered his daughters to an angry mob rather than allow guests who "have come under the shelter of my roof" (Gen. 19:8) to be harmed. (Those guests turned out to be messengers from God.) In return, the guest had a solemn obligation not to harm the host. In the ancient world — and still today in some cultures — the sharing of food constituted a covenant of friendship, and one of the most despicable acts would be to eat with someone and then betray him. Knowing that, adds another dimension to Judas's betrayal.

Other stories that illustrate the power and importance of hospitality abound in the Old Testament. For example, Abraham's servant is so generously received by Rebecca at the well that he recognizes her as the perfect wife for Isaac (Gen. 24). And in the second book of Kings, the prophets Elijah and Elisha repay their hosts by curing their sons. In a gesture of gratitude prefiguring the Eucharist, Elijah blesses his hostess's grain so that it never runs out (2 Kgs. 4).

The Mosaic law explicated the necessity of hospitality. Having known from their years in slavery in Egypt what it was like to be foreigners at the mercy of their hosts, the Israelites had a special kinship with strangers, which the laws of Moses reiterated: "You shall not oppress a stranger . . . for you were strangers in the land of Egypt" (Ex. 23:9). In Leviticus, Christ's golden rule is prefigured: "When a stranger sojourns with you in your land, you shall not do him wrong. The stranger who sojourns with you shall be to you as the native among you, and you shall love him as yourself, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt" (Lev. 19:33-34).

The repetition of the refrain "for you were strangers" reminded the Hebrews to be hospitable out of sympathy and charity, in addition to obedience to the law of God handed down through Moses. They were dependent on God's assistance when they were in the desert; now they must respond with generosity when others are in trouble.

Other Mosaic laws instructed the community on how strangers who stayed for a length of time should fit into the society. They were to participate in sacrifices and allowed to celebrate feasts. They were welcome to glean the fields. In return, guests were expected to follow the laws of Israel as long as they abided there (cf. Lev. 17:12-13; 18:26; 19:10; Num. 15:16).

Strangers, like the poor, widows, and orphans, should be shown special generosity: God "executes justice for the fatherless and the widow, and loves the sojourner, giving him food and clothing" (Deut. 10:18). Yet despite these laws requiring generosity toward strangers, there was still a distance to be kept. Marrying a foreigner was frowned upon if not forbidden, and outsiders were not to eat "holy things" (Lev. 22:10, 12).

In the Fullness of Time

That distance was bridged by Christ. In the New Testament, when Paul calls on the early Christians to show hospitality to strangers, he links hospitality to Christ's commandment to love, which is the New Law. Paul, perhaps thinking of Abraham, writes, "Let brotherly love continue. Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares" (Heb. 13:1-2). Paul's encouragement of brotherly love implies that the distance between a foreigner and host can be bridged. For the Christian, the stranger is also a brother or a neighbor who represents Christ and who also may be a messenger from God. In the story of the good Samaritan, Christ broadens the concept of "neighbor" to define it more by actions than by proximity.

This New Law, as the Catechism of the Catholic Church points out, fulfills and perfects the Old Law. It does not add to or abolish the Old Law but "proceeds to reform the heart, the root of human acts, where man chooses between the pure and the impure, where faith, hope, and charity are formed and with them the other virtues. The gospel thus brings the law to its fullness through imitation of the perfection of the heavenly Father, through forgiveness of enemies and prayer for persecutors, in emulation of the divine generosity" (CCC 1968).

Christ's commandment to love one another as he loves deepens the understanding of neighborly love with which the Jews were familiar. Jesus not only says, "Love your neighbor as yourself" but invites us to love as he loves: "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends" (John 15:12-13). Christ includes even enemies when he says, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven" (Matt. 5:44-45).

Christ as Guest and Host

The idea that love of neighbor is an act of sacrificial love adds a new dimension to the virtue of hospitality. Hospitality becomes a means to serve others and Christ in them. Christ lives this humble service by becoming a traveler himself, dependent on the hospitality of both Pharisees and tax collectors alike. He journeys from town to town preaching about true charity, himself a stranger who must be welcomed: "The Son of Man has nowhere to lay his head" (Matt. 8:20).  

Christ shares much of his wisdom while dining with others. The lesson that he repeats at the table of Zacchaeus is that he has come to heal the afflicted, to eat with the sinners, and to call those who have strayed from God: "Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick" (Matt. 9:12). He thus reminds us that an essential part of hospitality is ministering to the needs of guests.

Jesus also ties hospitality into his description of who will inherit heaven: "Come, O blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world; for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me . . . Truly I say to you, as you did it to one of these my brethren, you did it to me" (Matt. 25:34-36, 40).

These passages make it clear that in order to be welcomed into heaven, we must welcome and serve others. Time and again, even at the Last Supper, Jesus reminded his disciples that to love means to put others first: "Whoever would be first among you must be slave of all" (Mark 10:44). Many potential followers of Christ turn away because this call to active service requires detachment from material goods, family connections, and physical comforts. We see this in the story of the rich young man (Mark 10:17-22). If we are to follow Christ, we must be willing to put all we have at the service of others. In other words, we must practice hospitality not just out of courtesy or duty — it has to cost us something. As John Paul II said, "Welcoming Christ in our needy brothers and sisters is the condition of being able to meet him face to face and perfectly at the end of our earthly journey" (Homily for the Jubilee of Migrants and Itinerant Workers, June 2, 2000).

Heaven Is a Banquet

Not surprisingly, Jesus describes heaven in terms of hospitality. He says to Peter, "In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And when I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also" (John 14:2).

And when Jesus says, "Come and follow me" (Matt. 11:28), he is inviting us all to a feast — both the eternal heavenly banquet and the eucharistic feast. In his parables, Jesus describes the heavenly banquet as a marriage feast. The invited guests decline because they are too busy with material cares. In their place, the host has his servants invite the poor, the lame, and the afflicted — those who will appreciate it and be grateful. It is these whom God will invite to the heavenly banquet. "For many are called, but few are chosen" (Matt. 22:14). And yet, God is a forgiving host: "Ask and it will be given you; seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you" (Luke 11:9).

Jesus elaborates on the forgiving nature of God's hospitality in the story of the prodigal son. Just as the father welcomes home with open arms the profligate son and sets to rejoicing, God will welcome into heaven those who sin but ask forgiveness. Meanwhile, most of us sympathize with the older son who grumbles over his brother's reception. We, too, lack gratitude and envy the feast laid for others instead of being humble like the wayward son, aware of his need, and grateful for what little he might receive.

Hospitality and the Eucharist

Ultimately, all of these teachings on hospitality come together in the Eucharist, in which we welcome Christ into our hearts, offering all that we are to him. Like the centurion whose words we echo at every Mass, we do not feel worthy to receive Christ (literally, to have him under our roof), but we need his love and redemption to heal us. Christ invites us to his feast and offers himself as our bread and our home: "He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me, and I in him" (John 6:56).

The early Christians understood the connection between receiving Christ in the Eucharist and sharing hospitality with others. In Acts, we read that "they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers . . . Day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they partook of food with glad and generous hearts" (Acts 2:42, 46). Their homes truly were domestic churches with doors open to receive others.

Similarly, we must receive Christ in the Eucharist with "glad and generous hearts." The Eucharist is a celebration, and like all good feasts, it requires guests. As in the parable of the marriage feast, Christ prefers the neediest guests. When we offer our needs and shortcomings at his table, Christ the Host offers forgiveness, like the generous master of his parables, and renews grace in our hearts. Mary and Martha of Bethany knew that time spent welcoming Christ allows us to serve others more generously.

Living Christian Hospitality

Our challenge is to share with others the message that Christ's love cures all ills. Using the example of Christ meeting his disciples on the road to Emmaus, John Paul II links our reception of Christ in the Eucharist with a call to serve others: "Like the disciples of Emmaus, believers, supported by the living presence of the risen Christ, become in turn the traveling companions of their brothers and sisters in trouble, offering them the word that rekindles hospitality in their hearts. With them they break the bread of friendship, brotherhood, and mutual help" (Homily, June 2, 2000). Our response to receiving Christ in the Eucharist is to welcome others in his name.

The early Christians relied on the older Jewish and Gentile conventions of hospitality to find food and lodging while teaching about Christ's words of welcome. Made pilgrims by their desire to share the gospel and in political exile because of their faith in Christ, the early Christians probably thought often of the Israelites in the desert. The life of a wayfarer would not have been easy. Peter urges the followers of Jesus to behave well so that their actions will evangelize the Gentiles: "Maintain good conduct among the Gentiles, so that in case they speak against you as wrongdoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation" (1 Pet. 2:12). Later, he urges them to remember that love requires serving others: "Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins. Practice hospitality ungrudgingly to one another" (1 Pet. 4:8-9).

Like the early Christians, we must also rely on and offer hospitality as a means of sharing the gospel. By creating a welcoming home, we make the Christian life attractive. With further insight, John Paul II writes, "Welcoming our brothers and sisters with care and willingness must not be limited to extraordinary occasions but must become for all believers a habit of service in their daily lives" (Address to volunteer workers, March 8, 1997).

As believers, we are sustained by the Eucharist to welcome not only strangers but also neighbors and family. Being hospitable means being vulnerable and potentially suffering the pains of living closely with those who most clearly see our faults. In marriage, being hospitable spills into how open we are to life and children. Christian hospitality requires the humility of loving service toward each member of the family, including those with whom it might be difficult to get along. But the rough spots of family life offer the most opportunity for growing in charity and holiness.

Mary is Our Model

We can also look to Mary for a perfect example of this understanding of hospitality as a call to loving service. After she welcomes Christ in conception, Mary rushes to serve Elizabeth, who receives Mary with open arms, recognizing her holy guest. One can only imagine the companionship and comfort the two provided each other, both of whom had become hostesses in the most intimate way to the infants in their wombs.

Later in Bethlehem, Mary continued to welcome strangers and to share the gift of her child. Although she and Joseph found no lodging for themselves in Bethlehem, Mary received the shepherds and wise men who wanted to welcome Jesus without fussing about her surroundings or fretting about what food to serve. When she and her family had to flee to Egypt, she relied on the generosity of others to shelter her family from Herod's deadly reach.

The miracle at the wedding feast in Cana further demonstrates Mary's generous and hospitable heart. She takes pity on the wedding host and asks Jesus to help him. Her sensitivity to the need to continue the wedding feast reflects the importance of communion and feast in the presence of the Bridegroom. And Jesus' response shows not only his respect for his Mother but also his understanding of the sacred nature of hospitality. When he takes plain water and makes fine wine, he shows us how much he can do even with the little we offer.

Come on in!

Fortunately, the idea that hospitality is a virtue is being revived. The continuing success of World Youth Day has taught many people about the graces received by welcoming strangers and receiving hospitality. In honor of World Youth Day, private homes, parishes, religious communities, and civil organizations opened their doors to pilgrims and strangers in the tradition of ancient cultures welcoming foreign travelers without questions. As Pope Benedict XVI remarked in Cologne, "It is a fine thing that on such occasions the virtue of hospitality, which had almost disappeared and is one of man's original virtues, should be renewed and enable people of all states of life to meet."

So how to be a good host? Jeffrey Tucker offers terrific advice in his article "Catholics Give the Best Parties" in the July-August 2001 issue of Crisis, available at www.crisismagazine.com/julaug2001/feature2.htm.

We should also keep in mind what John Paul II said: "Only those who have opened their hearts to Christ can offer a hospitality that is never formal or superficial but identified by "gentleness" and "reverence" (cf. 1 Pet. 3:15)."

Our homes and our churches should be places where everyone feels at home. Guests should never feel that they are causing undue extra labor. In short, all that is really needed to be an excellent host is a loving heart, an open ear, and eyes that see Christ in each person who crosses the threshold.

My Big Fat Greek Welcome

The importance of hospitality in the ancient world is evidenced by its being a central theme in Homer's epic travelogue The Odyssey. In his ten-year struggle to get home to Greece after the Trojan wars, Odysseus is volleyed about the Mediterranean Sea at the mercy of strangers for his subsistence. Sometimes he is greeted with feasts; sometimes he very nearly is the feast. Fortunately, he frequently is treated as the Greek tradition demanded: He is given a meal, shelter, and parting gifts. This Greek concept was called philoxenia, or love for the foreigner. Menelaus demonstrates it when his servant announces:

"Menelaus, there are some strangers come here, two men, who look like sons of Jove. What are we to do? Shall we take their horses out, or tell them to find friends elsewhere as they best can?"

Menelaus was very angry and said, "Eteoneus, son of Boethous, you never used to be a fool, but now you talk like a simpleton. Take their horses out, of course, and show the strangers in that they may have supper; you and I have stayed often enough at other people's houses before we got back here, where heaven grant that we may rest in peace henceforward (4).

Emily J. Cook is a graduate of the University of Notre Dame and holds a master's degree from the University of Dallas. She writes from Norfolk, Virginia, where she lives with her husband and five children.

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